I've been dealing with this kind of problem since I was a
kid and later I realized that it’s not healthy to over-think of what other
people think about you. Yes! It’s okay to say you're hurt by what they say
about you, but we should not settle and be defined by their opinion because what
they are saying about you is not your problem anymore. They are not the only
people in the world! So why settle less than what you deserved? Right?
I don’t really mean to STOP caring, but my GOAL is how to
care less and how to be happy. It’s okay to ask people how your attitude and
how you've gone so far. Also, let’s keep in our mind that people judge us
according to our attitude so better ask yourself first and have a reality check
on yourself.
So now, I’m giving out some tips on how not to care about
what other people think about you based
on my experienced.
1. Set a VALUE in Life
We must think of what are the things that important to us,
what we value the most and what we
really want to happen in your Life. Once
you determine what you really value in life and when you set your goals, what
other people this of you will get less significant to us.
2. Over-Thinking can KILL you.
Most of the time I always think that I was being judged even when I’m not! Every time I met a stranger,
I always think that they have something negative on their mind about me where In fact, there is not I
eventually then ask them what do you think of me? Am I good or bad? Am I good
for you? What are my flaws? And they
find it weird and unhealthy, that’s why most of the time they turn me down and
never contact me again. But you know what? I never regret anything because
it made me realize that sometimes it our fault that’s why people judge us. Sometimes we need to push to our limits and
see how people react to it so you can adjust your attitude.
3. Flirt
It may sound weird at
first, but I really encourage you to TRY this! Working on my flirting skills
has helped me overcome my problem of what other people think about me.
By far, I’ve met a lot of men and most of the times I get rejections due to their high standards, but every time
they turn me down I think of the things
that they don’t have, like for example I have a job and I can support myself, I’m
an independent person, I have a loving family, I’m financially stable. I got to the point
that I STOPPED taking REJECTIONS personally and just started having fun with
the interaction and shrug every person rejected me.
4. Make a list of the things that you are GRATEFUL for.
I always list down all the things that I’m thankful for and
realized how bless I’m to have them. Once
you see everything that you have- maybe your family, good health, job, gadgets-
you begin to realize that life is all about what you have and not
what you don't have. Practice being appreciative of what God has blessed you
and not being resentful of what it doesn't.
5. Find Happiness in everyday things.
Take pleasure in the small things in life, like enjoying
your cup of coffee, playing with your pet, having fun at the beach or by just watching a kid playing. Take
comfort in everyday things because life is super short to worry about that
things that are not really serious.
6. Competence.
Once a writer said “Competence breeds confidence, so get to
work on yourself, develop some skills, learn more things.”
Since I've read this passage I let go all of the laziness then
I care too much of a big project and always wanted to learn new things and
skills. Since that day I feel really
good about myself and don’t need someone’s approval.
7. Travel
Alright! Just to clear, I never traveled outside Philippines
yet but I think it’s the best way to forget everything that bothers you. Once you go outside your comfort zone you will
feel more self-assured, more mature and less concern about what other people think
of you.
