Getting Paranoid of What other People Think about you

I've been dealing with this kind of problem since I was a kid and later I realized that it’s not healthy to over-think of what other people think about you. Yes! It’s okay to say you're hurt by what they say about you, but we should not settle and be defined by their opinion because what they are saying about you is not your problem anymore. They are not the only people in the world! So why settle less than what you deserved? Right?  

I don’t really mean to STOP caring, but my GOAL is how to care less and how to be happy. It’s okay to ask people how your attitude and how you've gone so far. Also, let’s keep in our mind that people judge us according to our attitude so better ask yourself first and have a reality check on yourself.

So now, I’m giving out some tips on how not to care about what other people think about you  based on my experienced.

1. Set a VALUE in Life

We must think of what are the things that important to us, what we value the most  and what we really want to happen in your Life.  Once you determine what you really value in life and when you set your goals, what other people this of you will get less significant to us.

2. Over-Thinking can KILL you.

Most of the time I always think that I was being  judged even when I’m not! Every time I met a stranger, I always think that they have something negative on their mind  about me where In fact, there is not I eventually then ask them what do you think of me? Am I good or bad? Am I good for you? What are my flaws? And  they find it weird and unhealthy, that’s why most of the time they turn me down and never contact me again.   But you know what? I never regret anything because it made me realize that sometimes it our fault that’s why people judge us.  Sometimes we need to push to our limits and see how people react to it so you can adjust your attitude.

3. Flirt

It may sound weird  at first, but I really encourage you to TRY this! Working on my flirting skills has helped me overcome my problem of what other people think about me.

By far, I’ve met a lot of men and most of the times  I get rejections  due to their high standards, but every time they  turn me down I think of the things that they don’t have, like for example I have a job and I can support myself, I’m an independent person, I have a loving family,  I’m financially stable. I got to the point that I STOPPED taking REJECTIONS personally and just started having fun with the interaction and shrug every person rejected me.

4. Make a list of the things that you are GRATEFUL for.

I always list down all the things that I’m thankful for and realized how bless I’m to have them.  Once you see everything that you have- maybe your family, good health, job, gadgets-  you begin to realize  that life is all about what you have and not what you don't have. Practice being appreciative of what God has blessed you and not being resentful of what it doesn't.

5. Find Happiness in everyday things.

Take pleasure in the small things in life, like enjoying your cup of coffee, playing with your pet, having fun at the beach  or by just watching a kid playing. Take comfort in everyday things because life is super short to worry about that things that are not really serious.

6. Competence.

Once a writer said “Competence breeds confidence, so get to work on yourself, develop some skills, learn more things.” 

Since I've read this passage I let go all of the laziness then I care too much of a big project and always wanted to learn new things and skills.  Since that day I feel really good about myself and don’t need someone’s approval.

7. Travel

Alright! Just to clear, I never traveled outside Philippines yet but I think it’s the best way to forget everything that bothers you.  Once you go outside your comfort zone you will feel more self-assured, more mature and less concern about what other people think of you.